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Day three of an Adventure in the Daddy Zone with my father

by Mark Eades November 1, 2018

We got up early and decided to forego breakfast so we could start off up I-15 to Pleasant Grove, Utah.

My Dad looking out at the scenery in the Virgin River Gorge.

For a lot of the drive in Nevada and Utah, and the little corner of Arizona, it was very windy, as we were driving into the wind and it buffeted us around a bit on the road.

A semi-truck and trailer overturned due to high winds on the median of I-15 north of Las Vegas.

But we did not have it as bad as one truck driver on I-15 in Nevada as somehow his (or her) semi ended up (trailer and all) upside down on the median.

The winds were high enough to overturn this tractor-trailer rig and blow it into the median on I-15 north of Las Vegas.

It was about a 15-minute delay to get past the wreck where the crews were working to pull it up and out of there.

Then it was onto to St. George, Utah – through the Virgin River Gorge.

The beautiful scenery of the upper end of the Virgin River Gorge.

It’s a beautiful drive through the gorge, sadly there is no place to stop and take photos until you are almost out of the gorge.

We ended up in St. George and stopped off at the Denny’s in the south part of town for breakfast right around 10:55 in the morning, then realized it was really 11:55 in the morning as we had entered a new time zone.

The next stop was a well-time visit to one of Utah’s very nice Rest Areas.

A rest area on I-15 in Utah that was very clean. California should take lessons on road maintenance and rest areas from Utah.

The bathrooms in this facility were as clean as those in Eddie World. But we also discovered that it was a lot colder here than in Vegas or California. And the wind was still blowing.

My silver Nissan Versa Note parked at the rest stop along I-15 in Utah. It was very pretty in this area.

Oh, and while we were at this stop, I made Dad finally find his sunglasses and put them in the glove compartment and be able to conveniently wear them.

Then it was back on the road. We gassed up in Cedar City, then drove on.

Then it was onward and we didn’t stop again until we got to Pleasant Grove. I had to pull off the interstate to look up the location of our hotel for two days, a Holiday Dad Inn Express.

The mountains as seen from out hotel room in Pleasant Grove, Utah.

It’s a nice room with a nice view.

Then we made an amazing discovery! There is a restaurant in Pleasant Grove called (drum roll please!) Jim’s Family Restaurant.

Jim’s Family Restaurant in Pleasant Grove, Utah. I didn’t know my Dad had a restaurant named after him.

Well of course we had to eat dinner there.

My Dad at his namesake restaurant in Pleasant Grove, Utah.

The owner also is Greek and besides the normal (large) family types of foods and sandwiches, he has some Greek food too. I had a marinated Pork dinner. Delicious. Dad ordered a Grilled Pastrami Burger with cheese, but after eating my soup decided to save the sandwich until tomorrow.

It’s a warm and friendly atmosphere inside Jim’s Family Restaurant. Something my Dad really liked – so did I.

Then it was up to the room for the night when Dad made a quirky discovery: The knob on the bathtub faucet could not be pulled up easily to divert the water up into the shower head. So we went down and got the hotel manager and we got it fixed. Thank goodness.

So now it’s time for bed as tomorrow we will go to Evermore Park where my good friend, former Disney Imagineer Josh Shipley, was the creative director for this brand-new themed entertainment experience.

Here’s a link to Day Two of our adventure.

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Day two of an Adventure in the Daddy Zone with my father

by Mark Eades October 31, 2018

Well, it’s our second day in Las Vegas and after a hearty breakfast (he had a ham an cheese omelet, I had French Toast) in Bugsy’s (the restaurant inside the El Cortez Hotel and Casino); we decided to go over to Hoover Dam to see the bridge they built 880 feet above the Colorado River to the south of the dam.

No, that’s not Dad with me in this photo.

Of course, this was after we check our multi-game Keno tickets to see what money we might have one. We both got some money, but not enough to cover what we had spent on the multi-game tickets.

A view out the window of the El Cortez towards the Las Vegas Strip.

Oh well, we bought new tickets, then headed out.

A view of Lake Mead as we headed towards Hoover Dam.

We actually drove out Fremont Street, which turns into Boulder Highway for most of the way, just to look at all the run down and closed up motels along the way.

The Hoover Dam Lodge and Casino, a nice place to make a pit stop on the way to Hoover Dam. Nice clean bathrooms!

Then, after getting on the freeway, Dad announced he needed to make a “pit stop.” Fortunately, the Hoover Dam Lodge and Casino was just at the next off-ramp – only a mile. So we got off the freeway and went inside the place so Dad could do his “duty.” By the way, it’s a very nice place with lots of interesting history on the construction of Hoover Dam.

My Dad, Jim Eades, looks down upon Hoover Dam from the bridge.

Okay, that was done and on to the overlook for the Mike O’Callaghan–Pat Tillman Memorial Bridge, which is the actual highway now between Nevada and Arizona.

At the top of the switchbacks trail leading to the overlook of the dam and the bridge.

We climbed a multitude of switchbacks on the walk up to the overlook, which were built very ADA compliant, by the way, with a grade of a 1-foot rise for every 12-feet. We both walked all the switchbacks up and down, rather than take the stairs

It’s a long drop from that bridge to the Colorado River below. But a great view of Hoover Dam. You can see the water level of Lake Mead is fairly low.

Once at the top, we walked out on the bridge on the pedestrian walkway to take in the view of Hoover Dam. We were 880 feet above the surface of the Colorado River below, south of the dam. A scary height indeed. The wind was blowing pretty hard too, so Dad had to carry his “Pop Pop” baseball hat so it would not blow away into the canyon below.

The bridge over the Colorado River near Hoover Dam.

You can still drive, very slowly, across Hoover Dam. But once across, you will have to turn around and drive back across, as it is no longer a throughway for traffic.

Cars still drive very slowly across Hoover Dam.

Then we drove through Boulder City on the way back to Vegas. That afternoon, after myself doing a little bit of my freelance work,  we both went out to “check on our investment” in Las Vegas. (You know, gamble.)

These folks from Michigan were all having Bloody Marys at the Golden Nugget’s Bar 46. (They make an excellent Manhattan there, by the way.)

But before I hit the poker room at the Golden Nugget, I had a Manhattan at its Bar 46, where I met up with a group from Michigan who had flown into town and made that bar their first stop to have their version of Bloody Marys. (Seven of them in all!) They proclaimed them the best they’d ever had.

An interesting character on Fremont Street.

I won some of the money I had lost the night before playing poker by, playing poker.

While walking back to the El Cortez from the Golden Nugget, I did run into a few interesting characters along the way.

I think this guy behind me lost all his money at the Craps tables.

Sadly, neither mine, nor my Dad’s numbers all came in that night at Keno.

Then it was on to dinner at Bugsy’s. We both had Rib-Eye steaks. But in Dad’s case he did have a hard time eating it, so I gladly finished it for him. We also washed it down with three (apiece) glasses of red wine – the wine was free due to the donations we both made in the Keno lounge.

A very fast asleep Pop Pop.

So now that we’ve both had all that wine, we’re both very sleepy. He’s all ready asleep and I’m having a hard time keeping my eyes open. So, it’s on to bed, then on to Pleasant Grove, Utah tomorrow.

In case you missed it, here’s a link to the Day One story.

October 31, 2018 0 comment
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Day one of An Adventure in the Daddy Zone with my father

by Mark Eades October 30, 2018

Day one of the 23-day road trip with my 85-year-old father started out innocently enough, we were just going to go to Vegas for a couple nights. After all, he had a few free nights at his favorite hotel: The El Cortez downtown.

But once we hit the road, we encountered our first little problem as we were climbing up to Cajon Pass on I-15, he could not find his sunglasses. He thought he had put them in one bag, the easily accessible one, but no. Oh well, he’d have to live without them if he had left them at home.

So, it was on to Victorville for our first stop, the traditional breakfast at Denny’s on Palmdale Road. We both had the same breakfast off the senior citizen menu, the scrambled eggs with cheddar cheese, bacon and pancakes. Then it was time to pay for the meal, which was on him.

Well. we encountered our second snafu. He attempted to use one of his credit cards to pay for the meal, and tip, but the machine rejected it. So he ended up using another card. But why it wasn’t being accepted was a puzzler. More on that in a bit.

Mark Eades stands near the giant ice cream sundae at Eddie World.

Fed and paid for, we went along on I-15 to our next stop, the newest tourist trap along the road to Vegas: Eddie World.

The wall of Los Angeles Lakers memorabilia on a wall inside Eddie World.

The owner is a big Lakers fan, and has a giant wall that shows his love of the Lakers.

Even the toilet handles at Eddie World are clean as with each opening of the handle, a new plastic cover slips over the handle – see Ma? No germs.

One of the selling points of Eddie World is that it has the cleanest bathrooms anywhere along that route, and I have to agree. Even the handles in the toilet stalls are set up with plastic that gets replaced every time someone uses them.

For a tourist trap they have some good food, even build your own pizza that is baked in a wood-fired oven.

They also sell a large variety of their own produced candies, wood-fired pizzas, fresh-ground hamburgers, and there’s even a section with multiple flavors of ice cream. In addition, there’s a jerky stand with a whole lot of varieties of jerky, and a Peet’s coffee counter.

Some of the stuff sold in Eddie World.

After spending some time inside, Dad decided to call the people about his refused credit card. Turned out they had sent him a new one, and he had neglected to validate it. So not only was the card he was carrying invalid, they invalidated the one probably sitting at home. But no worries, he had other cards and would be able to pay his share of the trip.

So now, after some photo ops, it was on to Vegas. We got there, and after checking in at the hotel, he immediately went down to the Keno Lounge and bought his favorite numbers for 100 games, then lost at a video poker machine.

I went over to the Golden Nugget to the real poker room and played for a few hours, but never really got any good cards and after about three hours, had spent my limit for the day.

Back to the hotel, we rested for a bit in the hotel room while I did some editing on a freelance article due in a couple days, then we went out to check out the crazy sights in downtown Las Vegas and have a light supper.

One of the crazy characters to be found on the Fremont Street Experience in Las Vegas.

Trust me, there are plenty of crazy sights in the downtown area called the Fremont Street Experience including many characters willing to pose for photo ops, for a donation of course.

If you’re heavy enough, and finish your meal, it’s free.

We thought about eating at the Heart Attack Grill, but instead dined on chili dogs at the American hot dog stand that sells Coney Island chili dogs at “The D.” Then went inside to take a look at the girls wearing go-go boots dancing behind the blackjack tables.

An art display sponsored by LYFT in downtown Las Vegas.

Then we went outside to visit Manneken Pis, a copy of a famous statue in Brussels. And, of course, I took a photo of Dad standing by the statue.

We wandered around a bit more, taking in all the lights, sound and craziness, then we two older men decided it was time to shower and bed down for the night.

All in all, a nice start to what should be a memorable trip.

October 30, 2018 1 comment
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A privilege and an honor

by Mark Eades May 16, 2014

It’s both a privilege and an honor. It’s both hard and frustrating. It’s both sad and touching. It is all of these and more when dealing with watching someone you have known for more than your life go through the debilitating decline of their health in their advanced years.

Not everyone has to deal with this, yet many do. The delicate dance of watching a loved one have to come to grips with the fact that there are things they can no longer do, or that you can do with them.

What used to be easy, like going to the bathroom, now becomes a difficult march. Eating becomes something less enjoyable. Just having a conversation can be hard.

Yet we persevere, just continue on – cherishing those days. But we also have to keep going, there is a living to be earned, bills to pay, children and grandchildren to help grow into adulthood so that they might be there one day for ourselves.

Society does not always deal well with those that are aging, those that are declining in health. Many times they are left in nursing homes or hospitals, to decline and die alone. Some times they have no one around to care at all.

And those going through it themselves don’t understand it either. What they know in their minds they should be able to do leads to frustration when their bodies no longer allow them to do it themselves. They feel a loss of dignity when they need help to go to the bathroom, or to bathe, or even get in and out of bed.

They feel less human, like they’ve become a young helpless baby, when they have to be fed instead of feeding themselves.

They feel less like who they are when they don’t even know if they’ve paid the bills or even who some of those who are around them might be as their mind begins to drift away.

Yet there is a dignity about dealing with it up front. It does take a toll, but a toll that can be cherished.

My mother, Susan Eades, is in the red on the right. My father, James Eades, is wearing a white T-shirt and sitting down. This photo was taken Mother’s Day 2014, many family members were there that day.

I am talking about my mother. Her health has become a delicate balance of medication and sustenance. Her age, nearly 80, along with being a heavy smoker for many years, has made it that much more difficult.

My father is 80 and is there with her, and has not had to live through something like this – he did not get the privilege with his parents as they lived 2,400 miles away.

I had the privilege with my in-laws, it took its toll, but got to know them in a way I had not, as did my wife, their daughter.

Now I am going through it with my mother, and it is difficult. There are good days and bad. But it is still a privilege and an honor.

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Adventures in the Aging Zone – A Diamond Anniversary

by Mark Eades March 3, 2014
Five of the Eades kids and their parents, Susan and Jim Eades. The five kids there are: Mark, Cindy, Annette, Mike and Matt. Not shown: Kim.

Five of the Eades kids and their parents, Susan and Jim Eades. The five kids there are: Mark, Cindy, Annette, Mike and Matt. Not shown: Kim.

One of the things about getting older, is you attend a lot more anniversary celebrations.

One of the rare things in this era are the wedding anniversaries, particularly ones that are 30 years or more.

Well in my case, my parents recently celebrated one of the rarest ones, their Diamond Anniversary, also known as a 60th wedding anniversary.

At my parents’ request, we kept this one small. We held it at my sister’s house and she was a gracious host.

One of the reasons we kept it small is that they don’t like big things any more; Mom walks a lot slower, and Dad has a hard time hearing things in big, noisy restaurants.

Now their 50th wedding anniversary was a big affair. We did it as a banquet, and “roasted” my parents thoroughly. But if you know our family, you know there aren’t too many things we won’t tease each other mercilessly about.

We teased them about the number of kids they begat (six) and about how they invented new math (Date of birth of first born minus date of marriage equals a lot less than nine months) and why we moved to California (It was to find a house with more than one bathroom).

At that event, my mother’s sister and others came out from Indiana to attend, as did many of the friends we’ve all known for decades in California.

But was that event better than this one?

No, both were fun and nice, just different.

We still swapped stories about things like past vacations, some fun things we did as a family (the vacations) and more. Just one of those chances for a larger family to get together and see each other, something that’s getting harder and harder to do as we all get older.

Congratulations Mom and Dad on making it through 60 years together.

March 3, 2014 0 comment
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